Tuesday 31 July 2007

Banishing bad thoughts

It is totally right! Life is much more easier if we can control our thinking. But actually, what we think is what we are and it happends automatically. Like a toaster with a voice-over.

Yeah, I guess we can control it, with practise and concious mind.

Read more at the article below...

Mind games: Banishing bad thoughts!
by Kathleen McGowan

Life would be much easier if we had perfect control over our thinking - especially where emotions are concerned. We could quickly forget about the people who make us frustrated or angry and allow disappointments to fade into the past without recriminations.

But in reality, this kind of emotional equanimity is rare. Most of us spend a lot of time thinking over unpleasant feelings and mulling over regrets and resentments. Unfortunately, many of these mental interpretations of our feelings make us feel worse about the situation. What started out as a small hurt or frustration, amplified by a thought process that focuses on pain and anger, may balloon into a major preoccupation.

Our minds often repeat painful thoughts or scenarios over and over, even when we'd much rather let them go. If you start paying attention to your interior monologue, you may find you are dwelling on the ways your parents let you down, angry at someone who has hurt you, afraid of the challenges you face in the future, or ashamed you haven't yet done the things you'd planned to in life.

You'd rather stop all of these thoughts in their tracks - but that's much easier said than done. Instead, you're left feeling as if there's something wrong with you: Why can't I just get over it? Why can't I just relax and be happy?

Generally, when you try to squelch one of these distressing trains of thought - or "just get over it" - your strenuous efforts to suppress it only make things worse. Research has shown that if we actively try to prevent anxiety-provoking or frightening thoughts, they generally become more powerful and harder to ignore. As a result, mental "fix-it" strategies generally backfire, whether that's trying to deny your unhappiness, avoiding the situations or people who make you anxious, or drinking to numb the feelings.

Accepting the negative feelings and learning to distance yourself from the thoughts that amplify them can be a much more effective coping strategy, says psychologist Stephen Hayes of the University of Nevada in Reno.

In his new book "Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life," he outlines a number of techniques from cognitive psychology that can help you resist getting lost in painful thoughts. With practise, you can learn to recognise your repetitive thoughts, and hold them at arm's length.
Here are a few of Hayes' suggestions:


• Practise noticing your thoughts. Try to be conscious of where your mind leads you, and label the type of thought you're having to yourself. For example, if you've made a mistake at work and are feeling bad about it, think to yourself: "I've noticed that I'm focused on my error right now." If you're feeling stupid about the mistake, say to yourself: "Right now, I'm criticising myself."

• If you find that one particular thought or phrase is running through your head - "I'm a loser" for example - try saying your troubling thought out loud, and either very slowly or in a funny voice. It seems silly, but by doing this, you're actively separating yourself from your mental soundtrack. You remind yourself these thoughts are being generated out of a mental habit.

• Try thinking of your mind as just another organ of your body. If you find yourself preoccupied by fears, imagine your brain is just like your hungry stomach when it rumbles or your feet when they're tired after a long day. Think: "There goes my mind again, worrying about something trivial."

• Think of your self-destructive or self-critical thoughts as internet pop-up ads. Don't criticise them or yourself for having them. Just think of them as unnecessary, meaningless noise.
All of these tactics are ways to become aware of your inner mental monologue without either getting caught up in it or trying to shut it down. Distancing yourself from your difficult thoughts can help you learn to stop turning small problems into dilemmas that seem all-consuming or hopeless.

Saturday 28 July 2007

Modern Addiction

Wow! I got this from MSN health and well being. I'll copy and paste it one by one cuz I really loves the comment.

THE MODERN ADDICTION

Life in 2007 for many of us is fast-moving, stressful and dependent on technology. Our way of life has therefore given birth to a number of modern addictions and maladies that, if allowed to spiral out of control, could lead to health problems, money worries and a whole lot of trouble.

We examine some of the modern lifestyle addictions that are increasingly affecting our wellbeing and take a look at what you can do to put a stop to your nasty habits.
  • The Internet

Is your computer on 24/7? Do you break out in a sweat if you have to go 20 minutes without checking your inbox? If so, you may be an internet addict, and you should try and curb this condition if you want to avoid being moody and agitated. Clinics are already starting to open up to treat this addiction, which can also deprive sufferers of sleep and lead to eye and back problems. Networking sites such as Facebook are only making the problem more widespread.

  • Shopping

If you lie about the price of things you have bought or debts you have accrued, or if you get a buzz out of buying things even though you probably don't need them, then there is a good chance you are addicted to shopping. But remember, retail therapy isn't a cure for anything and certainly won't make you happy - quite the opposite in fact. Time to come clean and bring your finances under control.

  • Sex

Anyone who knows their classical history or has read Marques de Sade will know that sex addiction isn't technically a modern affliction. But it is perhaps more threatening to our wellbeing than ever before and if you feel that you depend upon sex to feel normal or calm, you need to find help. The last thing you want is your problem to put you or others at risk.

  • Caffeine

A caffeine shot with breakfast, brunch, lunch, mid-afternoon and dinner will can lead to anxiety, insomnia and a dose of the shakes. We Brits love our coffee, but don't let your dependency get out of hand and try and limit yourself to one cup a day. After that, go for herbal tea instead.

  • Mobile Phones

If you can type a text faster than the speed of light, find that you are constantly on the phone or feel naked if you leave the house without your mobile, you could be suffering from 'mobile phone dependence syndrome', a term coined in China, the country with the world's largest population of mobile phone users. Symptoms include irritability if you are unable to use your phone and anger if no-one calls you for any period of time. Sufferers also show signs of stress and anxiety, and are putting themselves at risk of stress injuries such as RSI. Try and remember that, while it's good to talk, you shouldn't have to rely on your phone to feel complete, so switch off and relax. After all, what did people do before mobiles were invented?

  • Work

Pressure at work often leads to an unhealthy attachment to the office, and if you find that you work late most nights and can't get work out of your head even when you are at home, then it is time for you to restore your work/life balance. Ignoring the problem will only lead to extra stress, dwindling love life and a distinct lack of mates.

  • Binge Eating

Anorexia and bulimia have been around for yonks, but experts now think binge eating disorder is more common than both of these put together. Binge eaters will consume an astonishing quantity of food - even if they’re not hungry - and continue to overdose until uncomfortably full. Try and remember that you don't have to eat everything on your plate to feel full and, more importantly, learn to control your portion sizes.

  • Exersice

While regular exercise is vital to maintaining a healthy lifestyle, doing too much can damage your immune system and leave you feeling tired. Signs include feeling guilty if you miss a session and exercising while ill or injured. Four or five sessions a week should be your max, but listen to your body and you will know when it needs a break.

  • Salt

You may not think you are addicted to salt, but that is because many of the things we eat contain far too much of it and you might find that you start to miss it when it is taken away. Studies have shown that there is far too much salt in many of the foods we buy and that even a minor reduction in our intake would reduce deaths from heart disease significantly. Try and stick to 6g a day and use nutritional information to guide you.

  • Gambling

There are so many ways to gamble these days - online, mobile phone and the traditional bookmakers to name just three. But ask yourself this - have you ever met a poor bookie? Thought not. That's because gambling is a mugs game which leads to depression, financial ruin and utter despair if you're not careful. You cannot make yourself rich from betting, and no number of supercasinos will ever change that fact.

  • Smoking

Smoking isn't a modern phenomenon, but in this day and age it is startling to think that people still do it. The dangers to your health are endless, and with the smoking ban already in place in parts of the UK and coming to England in a matter of months, now is the time to kick the habit for good.

  • Cannabis

If you rely on a joint in the evening to get you to sleep or just to get through the day, you need to give up the weed as soon as possible. If not, you face the possibility of suffering from a serious mental health problem, not to mention the damage you are doing to your lungs, and the fact that it is illegal

Thursday 26 July 2007

Pursuit of Happyness


Sometimes you may think "Life is unfair!".
But actually...
It is just you who don't really know what is the 'fair' part of it.
Maybe those things makes you much stronger than other people. And that makes the difference between you and other people..

Who knows???...

So the best thing is be gratefull of what you have now. And Allah will gives you MORE, insyaAllah.

"...Kita merancang, Allah merancang... Tapi perancangan Allah yg terbaik..." [Al-Quran]

Be Strong and Keep Moving Forward With A Smile! [Ganbatte!!!]

Thursday 19 July 2007

Tazkirah Couple

Wah.. rajin pula adik2 ni hantar mesej pasal couple kebelakangan ni...
Erm.. seronok juga membacanya.

Dalam byk2 artikel yg aku dapat, tulisan yg ni menarik juga bagi aku. Macam cerpen + pengalaman sebenar penulis. Touching aa..

Moga sama2 kita baca dan ambil ikhtibar.

Wallahua'lam.

Wednesday 18 July 2007

Smartest Person in the World!

When I did my simulation, at the end of the output file, there will be a quote, proverb or saying from famous people. And today, the quote makes me smile so widely.. {Hehe}

Wanna know what it is?

"Don't worry Charlie Brown...
We learn MORE from losing than we do from
winning.
Then that makes me the SMARTEST PERSON IN THE WORLD..."
~ from CHARLES SCHULZ 'PEANUTS'

Hahahahahaha...........
Ganbatte!!!

Sunday 15 July 2007

Life

I just feel a bit down these days. I know why.. I just hanging on with it. Thats why.

Dear me,

Please give it up. Move on... There are a lot more u have to do..
Astaghfirullah a'zim..
O.. Allah, help me.

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Today I'm gonna visit a friend who recently gave birth to a cute little girl. [Hehe] Can't wait!
We'll gonna shop for her present this afternoon. And now its SALE season! Hope we'll find a great present for her.

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Thursday 12 July 2007

The Ignorant and the so-called 'Terrorist'

What?? I was quite shocked with his story. The police are so unbelievable and so ignorant! [Huhu]